Margaret Dylan Jones
W.A. composer, pianist,
teacher, article writer
About Mx, with Miss, Mrs, Mr, Ms,
Margaret Dylan Jones
15, 2015. Updated: December 12, 2015 at 11 pm
The new honorific title, Mx or Mix, has been used by
transgender people continuously since at least 2002.
they have taken it up in greater numbers resulting in many banks,
governments, credit card companies and other businesses integrating Mx
into their customer forms and databases. In May 2015 the Oxford
Dictionary (OED) added Mx to their online version citing the increasing
acceptance, by local government and business, of transgender
wishing to use the title instead of Miss, Mrs, Mr or Ms.
Having a transgender title is a wonderful development for non-binary
people, including androgynes such as myself. We really need a title
like Mx when we fill out forms so we don't have to lie and say we're
male or we're female. And it's so much better to use Mx in person
because having to say you are a Mr or a Ms when you plainly are not is
soul-destroying. Using Mx has made a world of difference to the
happiness and well-being of many non-binary transgender individuals.
Aims of this article
In this document I aim to provide some clarity on a number of issues
around Mx. I tackle some common misconceptions to
break them apart and show how they simply don’t make sense when given a
In this comprehensive article about Mx, my second and by far the
largest one found anywhere either online or offline, I look at the way
Mx came into
being, how it has been used over the last thirteen years or so, how
non-transgender people have been reacting to it, and how its use might
change over time.
I discuss what the recent addition of Mx to dictionaries means for its
future, what kind of people it seems to refer to, and its possible
effects on the future lives and well-being of gender-questioning people
throughout the English speaking world. And I have a detailed look at
the dangers of inappropriate use, as missteps are certainly possible
and could be unfortunate.
I've taken the time to explore many issues relating to Mx because much
of the commentary to date seems superficial, idealistic or
prescriptive, and not well-grounded in real-world experience.
Some readers may have been mislead by bold assertions that Mx is not a
transgender title, or alternatively that Mx is for everyone, or they
may even have heard the foolish notion that it can somehow be used as
sort of non-title. Anyone who believes any of this, or thinks Mx could
be successfully used to conceal their gender may well find, by the
time they finish reading this document in its entirety, that they have
changed their mind. Better put the kettle on!
I've made this second, much longer document because anyone considering
using Mx needs to think it through carefully and thoroughly before
making an informed choice. Certainly, not all transgender people will
want to use it, though it may be a boon to many in their day-to-day
lives, especially those transgender individuals living mostly among
In the body of the article you will find a list of plurals and full
spellings for Mx, Miss, Mrs, Mr and Ms, and a brief discussion of one
of my preferred pronouns, the singular they.
The are five appendices to this document. The first three are rough
definitions of gender terms as they are used here, details of scanned
documents which show my own consistent and extensive use of Mx since
2002, and the early use of Mx in fiction and internet discussions. The
final two have resources for allies and some important suggestions for
form makers. They're all well worth a read.
In preparing this document I’m very grateful to have had input not only
from transgender and agender individuals, but also from some cisgender
(i.e. non-transgender) people, because Mx is most certainly also about
them. Mx or Mix is not just a title used within the transgender
community, it is at a crucial point in the interface between us and
society at large. It has been used in correspondence and verbally by
governments, businesses, other organisations and cisgender individuals,
when they seek to address transgender people with respect.
The more academic readers will observe that I am not well-read in
of gender and theories of titles and labels, and I do not contribute to
their ongoing development as such. Instead, I offer a unique
perspective on the use of Mx, being at least one of the earliest and
most consistent users of it. I am possibly the only one of the early
adopters still around and still calling themself by the title Mx.
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Aims of this article
Navigation in this article
What is your
The origins of
Mx, and who has
been using it
What are titles
exclusivity of titles
who have no gender
successful use of Mx
other users say
men and women: Mr and Mrs
to see here, move along folks
Is Mx subversive,
pronouns: the singular they
of Mx and Mix
deceiving, except when they are
Mx is not a
case of mistaken
stating your gender without using Mx
address someone when
you don't know their gender, without using
should not use Mx
What allies can
Form makers and
Call out to
others using Mx or Mix
in the appendices (see Five
Appendices, opens in a separate window):
Documentation of real Mx usage from 2002 onwards
1982, Mx in fiction and the Usenet
Issues for form makers
Resources for allies
What is your gender anyway?
Most people in the Western world seem to
gender-related characteristics into one of just two groups: male and
female (or masculine and feminine). Since
every person on the planet
has their own notions of what these terms mean I will not try to
describe them here. In any case this binary
division is breaking down more and more as time goes by.
How you think of yourself in terms of
gender really springs from a
feeling or intuitive sense which is innate. From deep within your
psyche you self-identify as male, female, or something else such as a
mixture or none of these. Your own sense of your gender (your gender identity)
may change over
time or fluctuate between various genders but it has its own timetable
and direction. It's not something you can choose or change—you can only
discover it, explore it and live it.
For most people their anatomical sex and their gender identity match up
fairly well. But in the case of transgender people there is a major
mis-match; or, at least, that is one way of looking at it. My point is
that gender is independent of sexual anatomy, and this article is only
concerned with gender. Within gender, this article is only concerned
with one's own sense of one's gender, and not with gender expression
beyond the use of gendered titles and pronouns.
About my rough definitions
Defining gender terms is a central problem in any discussion of gender
identity. To minimise the time spent on such quandaries here I
have provided some rough-and-ready descriptions of how I use certain
terms, just for the purposes of this document. They're in Appendix
One (opens in a new window).
Many individuals dislike being labelled, especially by
gender labels, while others, including some questioning their own
gender identity, actively seek out or invent such labels.
I hope the shortcomings of my attempts at making definitions here will
not cause offence or make anyone feel their own experiences, whether
lived or internal, are in any way regarded as less valid than anyone
Strangely enough, it is practically impossible to define any gender
term for use in a wide range of circumstances, and that includes the
terms male and female. Sure, you can make a definition for a certain
purpose but as soon as you move away from that narrow application
you'll find your definition falls apart.
Take for example woman, an adult human female. If a person
talks, and self-identifies as a woman, is that enough to call her a
woman, or does she also have to be fertile? There are many infertile
women. Does she have to have female reproductive organs? Perhaps she's
had a hysterectomy. Or does she need female genes in her chromosomes?
There have always been women in the world who were born looking female,
who grew up as and thought of themselves as women, and who went to
their graves never having been pregnant and never having had a period.
They may have
been genetically male, had a vagina but no penis, no ovaries and no
uterus. All their lives from the cradle to the grave they and their
families may have been none the wiser, always thinking of them as
women. Such people are often very feminine in self identity and
appearance. If you define woman as an adult who is genetically female
they are not women, but I'd still say they are women. See the open
letter Prof. Milton Diamond Writes to Greer.
So, bearing in mind that any definition of these gender terms is
inevitably going to be inaccurate, of limited application, misleading,
possibly controversial and a little bit wrong, I have produced a few
brief descriptions of these terms in that first appendix:
Cisgender man, cisgender woman,
cisgender person (i.e. most people)
Transsexual person (a term apparently
losing currency, but it serves a
Transgender person (here not
including transsexual; in this article it means non-binary
Agender, genderless, non-gender identity
The gender binary
In this article I've used transsexual separately to transgender
members of these groups are likely to have different needs and
attitudes in regard to titles in general and to Mx in particular.
The origins of Mx, and who has been using it
A fiction writer used Mx in a short story in 1977, and it was discussed
briefly and sporadically in early Usenet newsgroups from 1982 (see
heading '... Nothing to see here,' below). But who
has actually been using Mx in the real world, in every day life?
Apart from myself in 2002 and before that a person in Victoria,
Australia, there may have been many other people all over the English
speaking world who were using Mx around the turn of the century. If so,
I hope they will contact me. In more recent times the use of Mx has
grown rapidly in the UK and the US.
Probably the most well-known high profile user is Mx Justin Vivian
Bond. This multi-talented performing artist, who sings in a genuine
voice without miming, is transgender and began using Mx in 2011.
Mx Bond blogged
"I … adopted Mx because it implies a mix which is the
least offensive and most general way I’ve been able to come up with to
find a prefix that clearly states a trans identity without amplifying a
binary gender preference, or even acknowledging the gender binary at
all. You may call me Justin, or Vivian or 'V.'"
V said to Katherine Rosman, of Business Day Live, "It sounded like an
obvious description of what I was: a mix of genders…"
This is very similar to how I use and pronounce Mx (as Mix). But I also
has the potential to encompass a little more than this.
What are titles for?
Titles are as much for describing a person to you as they are for
indicating how you should or could interact with them. Mx signals to
you that the person is not a Mr or a Ms; that is, they are not binary
gendered, not exclusively male or female. As with the other common
titles it's an advance warning or early indication of something
fundamental about that person, which could be important to the way you
will want to interact with them. Like those other titles, you are only
advised of a very limited set of factors about what the person is like,
and what they are not like.
Hearing or reading a title, any title, gives notice of the
personal pronouns to use. If I see Mr, I’m going to use he; and
Mrs or Ms will be she. This is often all true regardless of
cisgender or transgender et cetera.
But what if the title is Mx? The right pronoun may well be the singular
they, but it could be he, she, or any
one of a long list of novel
transgender personal pronouns which have been invented. When I
see Mx I am alerted not to take for granted that a person with a
feminine name, or feminine appearance, should automatically be called she.
I’ll need to pick up the correct pronoun, which I
can ask them
for. It may well be stated on their website or their Facebook.
Without this advance warning from seeing Mx I might be stumbling in the
dark as to what pronoun to use and so will have to guess. Often with a
transgender person it will be the wrong pronoun, causing the serious
offence of misgendering. Everyone hates this, both the people saying
the wrong thing and the people hearing it, which can feel like little
daggers piercing the heart. Many non-binary people tire of constantly
correcting people they meet and simply suffer this in silence. I find
using what is clearly a transgender or agender title for myself, Mx,
greatly helps the people around me to use more appropriate pronouns.
It seems titles are very important; all adults have one, and we are
often asked for ours when we fill out forms and make online
applications. They exist in many languages. In English they are very
numerous if you count courtesy, religious and formal titles in addition
to the common or honorific titles like Mx and Mr.
They don't define people in any great detail (and how could you define
a person anyway?) But using Mx makes it obvious that the
person in question is an out and proud transgender or agender
individual—that is the basic message the person is sending.
Importantly, a title provides a way of addressing a person with
respect, something the world always seems to need more of.
Titles related to a person's function, such as Rev, Dr or Prof, have
the additional purpose of showing where a person sits in an
or work sense, at the very least. But what of common titles, such as Mr
or Miss? The traditional common titles are all gendered: they tell you
if the person is male or female, but, as we all now know, that hides
the fact that some people simply are not exclusively male or female. In
part this fact was brought home to myself and many other people by
learning about and getting to know intersex individuals, who are born
with one or more of a large number of variations in sexual genetics
and/or sexual physiology (such as the example above of women, born
looking completely female, who are genetically male).
Even if we had not had the example of intersex people it should still
have been obvious that many individuals are not exclusively masculine
or feminine in their personalities, and in their own
self-identification. So if the common titles are always at least partly
for establishing gender, we need a new one, such as Mx, for
those individuals who are not exclusively masculine or feminine.
But why else would anyone want to know? Marketers know in great detail
will be interested in their goods or services, starting with gender and
then moving on to a long list of other more easily definable
characteristics such as age, education, marital status et cetera. Like
many people I have only grudging respect for marketers, especially
because they fill my email inbox with all sorts of things I'm not
interested in, and perhaps there is a point there: if they knew even
more about me they might stop bothering me with irrelevant items.
Maybe, maybe not.
Individuals who are single and perhaps available for a new
relationship, or even just someone looking for a simple friendship
(perhaps for playing sport or enjoying music), would like to know if
the person they are
about to meet could be a good match, which usually depends in part on
gender. But is that a good enough reason for everyone having a gendered
title? Or a title which shows their marital status? I'll leave that as
an open question.
A couple of weeks ago I played piano at an artist's studio, part of a
weekend event involving 14 open studios. Driving home afterwards I
noticed the makeshift road sign with three lines of text: Open Studio,
Artist, Judy Kotai. This made me think that personal labels can have
quite a few important functions depending on the circumstance. Nobody
would have wanted to know if these artists were married or not, and
knowing their gender would not have been important. But the designation
'Artist' was of great value. These creative individuals find
such labels both useful in some ways and limiting in others, and
Some people are very proud of their gendered honorific title, or their
title as an artist or pianist, for example, and enjoy using it. I'd say
it speaks to the need for identity in a general sense, which is a need
we all have. In fact, we all have many identities if you count our
roles in our family, at work, and in our recreational pursuits.
Cisgender artist Judy Kotai,
with Mx Margaret at the piano
Titles are so ubiquitous they must serve some essential, or at least,
very useful, purpose. This makes me think they are not going to
disappear any time soon. Since androgynes like myself and other
non-binary people can't honestly use the traditional titles, we need
our own. It would not be enough for me to have a title which
effectively meant 'no title,' so I am glad I have something positive
which means 'this is the sort of person I am,' even if that necessarily
leaves a lot to discover. Or perhaps I like it precisely because it
does leave a lot to the imagination.
The exclusivity of titles
Titles, like any form of label or category, are both exclusive and
inclusive at the same time. For example, I think we can agree Mr
includes married men and unmarried men. And widowers, and men who were
born female. But it excludes all women.
Likewise, Mx has been used in ways that include a variety of non-binary
transgender or agender identities, which to me seems a very good way to
use it. But any title necessarily must have its limits, and I doubt if
transsexual people will want to use Mx simply because they identify
strongly with either a masculine or a feminine identity. Despite having
said that, I would be the last person to criticise a transsexual man or
woman who used Mx because they thought it was appropriate to their own
understanding of their gender, or thought it was a good practical
solution for them.
People who have no gender
As an androgyne I often feel genderless. That is, often I think of
myself as having no gender identity. But this can change in an instant
and I may suddenly feel I'm a mixture, or on rare occasions I may
identify weakly or strongly as a man or as a woman.
I recall, many years ago, frequently having the notion that I really
should be a woman, or should have been born female. In fact that was
much of the time for many years. And for a few days each year I used to
have an intense feeling that I really should be a man. This has slowly
changed over the years and now I'm probably more of the genderless type
or mixed type most of the time. So, androgyne I am.
However, some non-binary individuals report they have no gender
identification as a permanent state. That is, they don't think of
themselves as masculine or feminine, and not as some sort of mixture.
Though they are agender themselves, most seem to accept that most other
people do have some sense of having a gender. On the other
hand a few, probably just a few,
would like to see gender as a concept disappear completely. I think
they should not hold their breath on that one because most people enjoy
being men or women and are proud of that. That's not to say their own
genderless nature and experience is not very real; there is no question
agender people deserve our respect and careful consideration.
Individuals may have aspects about their nature which are innate but
their expression and exploration of their nature and their way of
living in the world constantly changes. To think otherwise ignores the
reality of daily life.
Many people questioning their own gender identity will often spend
years, even decades, wondering what they are really all about. If they
can adopt the use of Mx, regardless of whether it only refers to mixed
gender or also includes no gender, that may make their lives and their
journeys of self-discovery much less fraught with difficulty,
especially when you consider that many non-binary people find they are
not consistently transgender or agender but fluctuate between these two
over a period of days, weeks, months, years or decades.
If Mix finally settles as the full spelling of Mx it could be the
perfect title for more than just those individuals who are themselves
mixtures. That's because Mx could be seen to refer to a mixture of a
great variety of non-binary gender identifications, in which case it
would certainly and easily encompass both agender and transgender
people. Among these people a great many different gender labels are
currently in use, each one providing a different nuance to the concept
of gender identity. Mx could become an umbrella title for all or most
of these many different types of transgender and agender identities,
and this is how I think of it when I use it to refer to myself. I'm Mx
Margaret Jones, an androgyne. Someone else may be Mx Mary Smith, who is
agender, or is transgender, or is genderqueer, et cetera.
My long and successful use of Mx
To the best of my knowledge I'm the earliest adopter of Mx still using
it, and only the second person to use it consistently in a personal
and/or public context. By using internet searches, communication with
others known to be currently using Mx, reading anything I could find
about it online, and the wide distribution in many English speaking
countries of my previous article and my video (82,000 YouTube
impressions with a very high view rate), I found dozens of transgender
people using Mx in several countries. However, all this has failed to
find anyone else using Mx prior to myself or the person I heard was
using it at the time I took it up.
I feel a great responsibility, therefore, to relate the story of my own
real-world experience of Mx over such a long time span.
I briefly mentioned my own use of Mx or Mix in an earlier article,
which also has a discussion and useful information about the entry in
the OED. I began using Mx after hearing about that person using it in
Victoria who was both transgender and intersex (I wish I could recall
their name or who told me about them). I thought "What a great idea, as
an androgyne this suits me perfectly." Since then most of my bills have
come addressed to Mx Margaret Dylan Jones. Elsewhere online I have
scans of these bills or official documents (see Appendix Two, opens in a new window)
are featured in my video New
Mx title now in OED.
In July 2004 millions of Australians watched ABC television's popular George
Negus Tonight (GNT) programme as they broadcast a
feature on me, titled "Mx Jones." They consistently called me 'Mix.'
The transcript is still online at http://www.abc.net.au/gnt/people/Transcripts/s1158647.htm
When I perform live as a pianist or accompanist I'm introduced as 'Mix
Margaret.' That includes playing for community choirs, and accompanying
school students in their public or private performance exams and their
competitions. People address me that way with no hesitation. In all
these years I have not had any problems using Mx, except for a few
times when computer operators found their programs could not
accommodate a new title, but I believe that is now changing fast,
especially in the UK.
It seems everyone finds using Mx or Mix to address me makes perfect
sense. I don't even need to go into long explanations, I just say "My
title is Mix, spelt m-x or m-i-x." It's really simple, that's all there
is to it.
Either side of 2000 I spent many years heavily involved in trans
community groups but for me the issues of coming out as transgender and
then figuring out how to make my own way in the world as an androgyne
are now in the distant past. In part I attribute my successful life
since then to the use of Mx. I live and work among the general
cisgender population who know me well, respect me as a person, and
respect me for my work. I've been happy and productive as a music
teacher and pianist; as a taxi driver, operator & dispatcher (in
Perth and in a remote mining town); as a disability support worker,
mental health worker, supermarket staffer, and as a security officer.
For over four years dozens of families have placed great
trust in me as a continuous house sitter.
I've practically never had a problem being accepted as a transgender
androgyne working in these positions in many companies, dealing with
thousands of customers (when driving taxis) or cooperating as a team
member with hundreds of work colleagues. In five years of full-time
taxi driving, half of it at night, there were only two occasions when
grumpy passengers made derogatory comments about my transgender status,
and I do recall being flatly rejected by another disability
organisation because I'm transgender, but these stand out as the
exceptions which prove the rule. I was even headhunted by one firm,
and when deciding to move on I've often been asked by employers to
reconsider. I still get overtures asking me to come back.
Mx Margaret as taxi driver, in pink top, 2004
Benefits, and what other users say
Mental and physical health outcomes are poorer for transgender people
as a group. There are many reasons for that, but certainly one daily
kick in the teeth is having to use the wrong title (and the wrong
pronouns). It can be a strain when you are constantly using a title
that seriously doesn't fit you, or you're trying to avoid using any
all. It's bound to have effects on you in subtle and deep ways, perhaps
your subconscious think you are unworthy, or you don't really exist
because while you are called a 'Mr' or a 'Miss' you are not that, maybe
you are a fraud. For some people "I think, therefore I am" is not
enough. It needs to be "I think I am a Mx, therefore I am a Mx." Ah,
now that feels better.
In private correspondence with others using Mx I've found a surprising
uniformity in how they feel about Mx and how they use it, despite most
of these individual users having never had any contact with each other
or even knowledge of each other, and having read very little about it.
This strongly suggests Mx has natural attributes which really suit its
use as a transgender title. It's easy to say and very practical; these
and several other advantageous characteristics will soon see it spread
even more widely among transgender individuals. The transgender
community may really be on to something good with this title.
Mx Bond, or V, said in private correspondence in reference to a draft
of this article "The part
about being forced to lie about our identity was especially resonant."
Another user of Mx wrote to me thus (anonymous, November 2015):
"My own gender seems to be very
fluid. I began exploring [my
gender identity] 10 years ago, which led me down a rabbit hole of
exploration full of excitement, finding myself, questioning everything,
coming up and struggling with the paradoxes of myself and my gender
"I began a journey of medically transitioning [many
identifying as a FTM transsexual. Though I felt whole, the
reality of my life came back and slapped me hard….my son was in high
school and not taking the transition well and I was challenged
with the identity of being a mother, and not wanting to let go of that
identity, one that I was proud of, ... [I am] the sole provider for
"After coming out to everyone in my life,
clients, family, friends, I chose to discontinue my
medical testosterone and pause on my transition.
So many questions and no-one to seek with answers. My
mental health was [not good] …
"I had a friend (a curandera or faith
healer) who walked me
through it. I came across the term Mx I believe in an online
article. Which seemed to fit. I was a mix. Two spirited.
Gender-blurred, an in-between. I liked the title and it
helped me navigate those challenging years where I felt like
I was in nowhere land, I put it as a title on FB and soon people
started calling me that.
"I guess [I use Mx] to give my gender a title, to
others but also to
"[I use it on the] internet, and friends will write
that title out on
invitations or introductions. I plan to use it in formal legal
papers as now it is recognized.
"I pronounce it 'mix.'
"It's been good, seems to sum up where I
am, [in six years of
using Mx] I haven't had a bad experience with it.
"I've noticed heteronormative cisgender
and acquaintances must look it up and cue in on it. I no
longer get intrusive questions about my gender, more like they
drop hints that they understand etc. and we move on."
For my own account, around the time I began calling myself an androgyne
and took up using Mx, I found I could stop having to constantly wonder
was. Now I knew I was a 'Mx,' and so did all the people around me and
all the people and organisations I had dealings with. That was a big
weight off my mind, it's something that non gender-questioning folk
don't have to deal with. They don't wonder day and night if they are a
man, or woman, they just take it for granted and run with it. They
express it, sometimes consciously and sometimes not consciously. They
live it. Now I can do that, too. I can get on with my life (and
since 2002 I have). I can focus on many other important things, such as
work, family and creative activities.
Theory versus practice
Some argue over what Mx was intended to mean and who was supposed to
use it but that is pointless. Words only get their meaning from how
they are used and who uses them.
This point was aptly noted by a person calling
themself Bruce, in a post in a 1982 Usenet
gendered titles: “Discussions of how language ought to be are
interesting, but standard usage is the real authority.” See Appendix
Three: 1977, 1982, Mx in fiction and the Usenet (opens in a new
Let's not worry too much about exactly what sort of transgender
identities Mx should denote. The 'x' can easily be interpreted as a
wild card so it could refer to all sorts of transgender types. There is
a long list, growing constantly; the latest I heard was the lovely
galaxygender, which is a sort of ‘big mix’ of everything. The 'x' could
also remind people of the word 'intersex,' if they know it. Most
intersex individuals do not consider themselves in any way transgender,
but a few do. So it's easy to imagine those few may like to use Mx, and
some already do, as did the first user I ever knew of all those years
Transsexual men and women: Mr and Mrs
People using Mx are not likely to be transsexual. Presumably, most
transsexual men or women find the traditional titles such as Mr, Mrs,
Miss and Ms
are the appropriate ones for them. At the risk of generalising, they
seem to embody the traditional genders of male or female, and I for one
think that's great. I like some gender differences. Vive la
I don't advocate the end of gender as we know it for people who have a
binary gender identification, which must be most of about seven billion
My understanding is that transsexual individuals know themselves to be
exclusively either men or women in terms of their inner identity, but
they’ve been born with a body which has the opposite anatomy and
physiology. I say 'opposite' because many, but not all, transsexual
people seem to have a fairly binary view of gender, or, at least, of
their own gender experience, just the same as most people in the world.
respect that just as I respect the experience of many cisgender people
who also think of themselves as exclusively binary.
The average Jo or Joe in the street knows there are men, and there are
women. Jo and Joe often find it difficult to see how one could change
into the other. So do I.
On the other hand, in my experience Josephine and Giuseppe never seem
to have a problem with the idea that two things, or two groups of
characteristics such as male and female, could be mixed. And why should
they? All sorts of other things regularly get mixed, and perhaps they
feel a little mixed themselves at times. You can mix dog breeds, you
can put a black bonnet or hood on a white car (which seems to be in
fashion where I live), and you can graft lemons with other citrus
Even small children don't seem to have any problem with this concept.
They sometimes ask If I'm a girl or a boy (meaning man or woman). I
simply say, "No, I'm not." Many androgynes could tell you the same true
But just as you can’t change a dog into a cat, you can’t change a man
into a woman or vice versa. People who seem to make this transition
have not changed their real selves at all—they’ve only changed
features of their bodies and the way they appear, and perhaps the way
they talk et cetera. If you are a woman born in a male body you’re
still always going to be a woman. I don’t know why some people find
this so hard to understand.
In a paper published a year ago researchers at the Medical University
of Vienna claim to have found differences in brain structure in
transgender or transsexual people, compared to non-trans people. The
reproductive organs of the unborn child develop earlier than
these gender-marking brain structures, when hormonal levels which
influence such development may have been different. The difference in
developmental timing combined with a change in hormone levels along the
way may well explain how some individuals can have the brain structure
for a particular gender identity which is different to their body's
physiology. See Networks of the brain reflect the individual gender
identity, another link for the same, and White
matter microstructure in transsexuals and controls
investigated by diffusion tensor imaging.
One may speculate that this causal explanation may eventually be found
to apply to many types of transgender people, not only transsexual
people. In any case it does lend weight to the claim of the latter that
are really men, or women, but born with female or male physiology,
So, far from being delusional, the claim of being a woman born in a
male body or a man born in a female body, is exactly the opposite—it’s
And this truth is undeniable on a personal level. These individuals
were born with a brain which was destined, as young people and adults,
to give them some sort of transgender, transsexual, or agender identity.
Were bigots born with bigoted brains? Possibly, but I doubt it. They
just need to get over it.
1977, 1982: Nothing to see here, move along
An article or short story by fiction writer Pat Kite, published in
seems to be the earliest use of Mx in print. A man and a woman at a
party are having a conversation about gendered titles. The woman says:
“… Anyhow, if Mrs. and Miss are to be
shortened to Ms., then I think
Mister and Master should be changed to Muster … abbreviated Mu.
On second thought, maybe both sexes should be called Mx. That
would solve the gender problem entirely.”
Methinks calling both sexes Mx would not solve any problem at all. And
I don’t know if Pat Kite thought so, either. This is, after all, spoken
by a fictitious character.
The next appearance of Mx may have been in twentieth century Usenet
conversations. Digging through online records of these conversations
was sometimes a fun diversion for me when preparing this article. But
mostly it was quite boring, especially because I found very little
discussion of Mx. In fact, I found only a handful of
mentions, among only a bit more than a handful of very brief and
generally superficial discussions of gender titles.
Until I began preparing this article I’d never heard of these Usenet
posts, nor the magazine article, but that was no great impediment as
these are hardly in-depth or meaningful discussions.
Could the misguided advice that Mx is for everyone have stemmed from a
few of these Usenet posts? They can’t seriously be taken to have any
prescriptive value for how Mx should or could be used. Apart from just
one person saying in an early Usenet post they had used Mx
intermittently for very limited purposes (including a quasi-transgender
use), they do not show Mx being used effectively, or even
ineffectively. Their value is purely academic.
A description of the results of my searches, and links to their sources
(including the short story), is in Appendix Three: 1977, 1982, Mx
fiction and the Usenet (opens in a new window).
Is Mx subversive, revolutionary, or
I'm no revolutionary. Or perhaps I am. Now, there's a Mix-ed answer if
ever there was one.
Was the composer Claude Debussy (d.1918) a revolutionary? He was not
one for explaining his music. Quite the opposite, in fact. He did not
theorise about or propose new ways of using harmony, rhythm, melody and
texture. Rather, he just did it. To a music professor he said "There is
no theory. You have merely to listen… " In his compositions he
found some very new ways of making music, which
delighted audiences but confounded the critics.
Debussy's musical revolution has been a great success. A hundred years
later his music is still adored by audiences and his influence is
frequently heard in the works of many other composers and thus enjoyed
millions of people. Modern concert goers find his famous music familiar
and engaging, not revolutionary or confronting, especially when
compared to the atonal music and 12-tone music of Schoenberg.
The ever-theorising musical revolutionary, Arnold Schoenberg (d.1951),
practically invented atonal and 12-tone composition. He said "People
should know my tunes and whistle them." And his student Webern said
"Sometime even the postman will whistle my melodies." A century later
this has still not happened. Much as I admire the music of Schoenberg
and Webern, and have even composed music in homage to them, their story
suggests that telling the general public what
to do or what to like must have its limitations.
With the wisdom of hindsight, Debussy's Prelude to the Afternoon of
Faun (1894) is now seen to have heralded a huge and fundamental
in music. Debussy's to us rather subtle style had a subversive
influence on a vast array of other composers and other genres. It is
hard to imagine some other twentieth century styles of classical music
without the ground-breaking compositions of Debussy. Now, there's
Debussy did all that on his own and his music worked well from the
outset. Mx as it is currently used cannot be said
to have been
invented by just one individual; a number of people over many years
tossed it around before it became a useable title. But, similar to
Debussy's music, it has worked perfectly right from the time
transgender people first began using it as a title in real life,
without needing explanations or manifestos.
And like Debussy's wide and pervasive effect on music, Mx is having a
subtle but profound effect on the whole notion of gender identity.
Mx was first used or
revealed by a fiction writer, and radical commentators now want it to
be used in various ways, but I think evolution is a better explanation
than invention or revolution for its origin and continuing success. Mx
is filling a niche, it's being used because it satisfies a strong need
among some transgender people for a title to use in everyday life and
be proud of. It arose as a small modification of the traditional
honorifics and is based on an existing word. If it works well in the
jungle of competing gender titles it will survive.
It seems to me that Mx is naturally an abbreviation of mix or mixture.
But what about the plural? Obviously, Mixes.
The best descriptions I've found of traditional titles and their
plurals come from a couple of sites. From grammar-monster.com:
Miss., Mrs., and Ms.
contractions of the word Mistress.
Mr. is Messrs. (pronounced
Miss. is The Misses. [apparently
Mrs. is Mesdames (pronounced
Ms. is Mss. or Mses.
To which we may now add:
Mx. is Mixes.
Mr, Mister, title derived
forms of master. The modern
plural form is Misters, although its usual formal abbreviation
In the US titles are usually followed by a full stop (as in most of
this section on plurals) but in Australia and the UK they usually are
Personal pronouns: the singular they
Quite a few new words have been proposed as pronouns for
transpeople, going back many decades. In the section above on who has
been using Mx I mentioned Mx Bond, whose solution to the problem of
pronouns is to use the letter v, derived from V's middle name,
In my case I'm happy to be referred to using the female pronouns such
as she and her, or the singular they (they,
them, their, theirs, themself).
If you were talking or writing about me you
might say "Mx
Jones wrote an article where they said 'XYZ.' That's their opinion but
I don’t agree with them." Easy!
Contrary to popular belief the use of the singular they is not
generally considered ungrammatical even if it seems exceptional, and it
certainly goes back many centuries. It was only in the nineteenth
century that theorists decided he, his and him
should stand in place of
all humanity. Fortunately, they were not able to stamp out the use of
the singular they and it is still easily used and understood
People constantly use it in everyday speech. If Chaucer, Shakespeare,
Austen and many other great writers could use it, so can we. See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singular_they
(opens in a new window).
Singular they seems an especially good choice for individuals
experiencing their gender in some pluralistic way. It works well for
Facebook uses the singular they for members who ask to be known
gender neutral (I'd prefer to say 'non-binary' rather than 'gender
neutral'—see the heading Is Mx gender-neutral? below).
To do this in your Facebook, follow this path (if you
begin in Home view start with Edit Profile near the top left): About -
Contact and basic info - Basic information. Here you can choose Female,
Male or Neutral from the pull-down menu where you are asked “Which
pronoun do you prefer?” Neutral will automatically make Facebook
consistently refer to you using they, them, and their.
Just above this in the same section (Basic information) you can specify
your gender, at the pull-down menu called Gender. Here you choose from
Female, Male or Custom, and you also decide who can see this aspect of
you. I chose Custom and called myself ‘androgyne’ simply by
typing that word in the Gender box, and I chose ‘Public’ from the
pull-down menu. For other gender terms available on Facebook see my
blog article Facebook now has 50 genders (new window; I
believe there are now even more than 50).
The advantages of Mx and Mix
Don’t be misled by thinking my background as a vocal and speech
teacher, or my being an offspring of a wonderful and prolific writer
and poet, has somehow skewed my attitude to the pronunciation and
spelling of Mx as Mix—though they have, of course, informed it.
There can be no doubt that ease of pronunciation and aural
comprehension (that is, how easy it is to say, hear and understand),
to the continuing uptake of Mx and its long-term future. An awkward or
difficult to understand way of saying it, or a difficult to remember
full spelling, just won’t cut it, it won’t wash with the masses.
Mx has some valuable attributes and functions. In particular, Mx
- allows androgynes like myself and other
transgender and agender
people to be open about our gender;
- allows us to fill-in forms truthfully,
without lying; and
Mix as a pronunciation, and as the alternative or full spelling, has
some important advantages over other possibilities.
- Mix doesn’t fall foul of automatic
- is almost as easy to use as the abbreviation,
being only three letters;
- is still obviously a title;
- needs little or no explanation; and
- retains the meaning or implication of mixture.
Mx is easy to say; everyone already knows how to pronounce it and it’s
unlikely to be misheard as Ms. Mx or Mix is already proven to work
perfectly in the real world since at least 2002.
The commentator Patrick Shawn Fitzgerald (private correspondence,
November 2015) draws a parallel with onomatopoeia, where the sound of a
word evokes or matches what it describes. In the case of Mx, the most
likely (default) pronunciation exactly matches the full spelling:
“Mx works [in an analogous way to] an
onomatopoeia, where the
pronunciation of the word is the same as the meaning of it, like “bing”
or “ding.” Mx = mix, as in mixture. It’s the perfect honorific for
those … whose genders are—for lack of a better term—mixtures of
male/female, whether physical or ‘spiritual.’”
The current OED definition for Mx (in their
online version) provides two pronunciations:
(which is Mix) and /məks/. The latter is very close to ‘Mucks’ and
‘Mex.’ It should be self-evident to anyone in North America that the
place of ‘Mex’ in the language is already taken. And who would want to
be called ‘Mucks?’
The natural default pronunciation of Mix will slowly overtake any other
if it hasn’t already; it’s what will survive in the long run.
Appearances are not deceiving, except when
Mx is about a person's own sense of gender identity, and that is not
dependent on their appearance, presentation or expression. How they
make themself look or otherwise present themself is their gender expression.
Of course, this usually has a lot to do with how they think of their
personal gender but, essentially, their gender identity is separate to
all of that, it’s an internal thing. It’s how they think of themself,
which might not match how they look.
Many non-binary individuals radically change their presentation to
match what is between their ears—this doesn’t change who they are in
their own terms, in their own minds. But some non-binary people do not
change their presentation, for all sorts of reasons. For one thing, it
can be enormously challenging on a whole range of psychological fronts,
let alone socially, medically or financially. Or they might well ask
indignantly “And why should I?”
There are many terms to describe this kind of situation and most of us
have been there at some point. There must be many people experiencing
their gender like this, and many of them prefer not to change their
gender presentation at all. Their internal gender identity differs from
their appearance, making them mixtures in another sense.
Whatever terms are used these people are definitely somewhere in
the ‘great mixture’ of non-binary gender types, as I call it.
Therefore, it seems to me that a male-presenting or female-presenting
person, who was born male or female, respectively, who has an internal
identity of transgender or agender, or even transsexual, could at least
consider using Mx. But that’s subject to many caveats.
That is, such a decision is complicated and should not be made lightly.
I’d like to think it was simple, that anyone could ‘come out’ as
transgender et cetera and the world would be happy. However, describing
yourself as transgender when you present, or still present, as
cisgender may be very confronting to the people around you and the
people you deal with on a daily basis. And your boss. So, only for the
brave, or the foolish.
Which, I recall, were exactly the words I heard when announcing my own
intentions in my 30s.
Mx is not a panacea—regrettable mistakes
Some novel uses of Mx may seem like a good idea at first thought, and
some commentators have been running with them and recommending them,
but a deeper examination of the practical implications reveals they are
unlikely to work in the long run. Mx is not a panacea for all the
unresolved or newly-emerged problems of communication found when using
Just as there is a genuine need for transgender people to have a title
which provides a way of stating their gender status openly and
honestly, and a way to fill out forms without lying, there is also a
genuine need for anyone to be able to withhold gender information when
they consider withholding it is necessary to avoid
gender-based discrimination. For this reason I advocate the use of
something like 'No title' in forms. See Appendix Four: Issues for
makers (opens in a new window).
A title which means 'I don't want to reveal my gender' might have been
useful in certain situations where any person needs to fill out a form,
and they could be a cisgender, transgender, transsexual or agender
person. However, in the long run, I don't think that title will be Mx.
For one thing, the fact that the pronunciation of Mx falls so naturally
as 'mix’ means that 'mixture of gender characteristics' and/or 'I
identify as agender' is most likely to be its destiny.
Even if Jo Public, reading a filled out form, thinks the 'x' refers to
indeterminate or unspecified gender she is not likely to assume the
question is a cisgender man or woman. In this day and age the more
likely assumption is transgender, or perhaps intersex.
I can imagine this kind of conversation between a recruitment officer,
such as Jo Public, and a cisgender job applicant: "I see you've put Mx
as your title. We have a trans-inclusive hiring policy." Or "You've put
Mx in the title field, but you're a Mr, a man, right?" Or, perhaps the
mere use of Mx on the form will ensure no such conversation ever takes
place. Avoiding discrimination requires a lot more than simply using a
There is also the obvious problem of a cisgender person using Mx in
person or in public. Let's say a very cisgender-looking person, for
example a man called Giuseppe Bloggsnovich, is introduced or introduces
himself as 'Mx G. Bloggsnovich.' It's immediately obvious he is
masculine, a man. How can he expect Mx to conceal his gender when using
it in person? Or on his social media site full of photos of himself? He
can't, and the people he has just met will want to address him as 'Mr
Bloggsnovich' and use the masculine pronouns he, his
especially if they realise he is not at all transgender. If he has
previously identified himself in writing as Mx G. Bloggsnovich they
will really be scratching their heads, and may wonder if he was trying
to deceive them. Alternatively, they may believe that he really is in
some way transgender (perhaps either a transman who was born female, or
a male-born person who is just about to start taking female hormones).
But that is not at all what he, as a cisgender man, really wants them
Recently I've encountered the phenomenon of cisgender individuals being
enthusiastically attracted to the mere concept of taking up the use of
Mx, without knowing anything about it. I mentioned to a few
acquaintances that the OED has just added Mx but before I could
say very much about it I saw their eyes widen and heard their voices
being raised. From their impulsive reactions and what they then said it
seems just the novelty of a new title being put in a dictionary may
make a person keen to 'give it a try,' as one person put it.
GIVE IT A TRY? (and now my voice is
Taking advantage of such enthusiasm to promote the experimental use of
Mx by cisgender people might be easy, but it would be irresponsible.
Perhaps this initial burst of interest is due to a need to assuage the
consternation often felt by many people when filling out forms which
require them to choose between titles they don't like. But choosing Mx
to 'give it a try' without proper consideration would be a poor
decision, and the thrill of the new would soon wear off when
practicalities kick in—and they might keep kicking in for that person
for years to come.
A cisgender person might flippantly call themself 'transgender,' or use
an offensive term, and dress up in some type of drag clothing, for
example at a sports club function. To do this for fun and amusement is
not uncommon, and reactions and views differ as to whether or not and
to what extent this is offensive. A temporary self-description like
this might not last beyond the evening's entertainment, whereas a
change of title may become a permanent feature, even if only taken
temporarily in jest or as a dare. A new title may be kept on file
forever in records held by many organisations such as credit history
agencies, insurers, finance lenders, rental boards, and government
authorities. Even if a person subsequently changes their title back to
something other than Mx, a record of the change might be kept in some
places. So it's important to make a change to using Mx purposefully and
not just for the fun of it or for some other frivolous reason.
Cisgender people using Mx instead of a traditional title for
themselves, in an ultimately futile attempt to hide their gender, may
also play into the
of critics and transmisogynists (haters of transgender people) who
transgender and agender people are really in some sense hiding or
trying to avoid being men or women.
A case of mistaken identities?
The UK Deed Poll
Service handles all sorts of name changes for all
sorts of people, and sometimes the accompanying changes of titles. They
have been a leader in implementing the use of Mx, and provide
a good example of an organisation responding to the needs of the
However, their early adoption in 2011 of Mx is an example of how simply
adding Mx to a list of available titles in an online form is not
sufficient. It needs to be
done with some care otherwise it may easily produce unintended
results. Prime among these are 'forced errors' where customers, for
various reasons, choose the wrong title, adversely affecting the
quality of the data collected. There is no doubt getting this right
will require ongoing review in the light of experience as the finer
points of form design get tweaked to accommodate the new title and
Service has told me:
"It is only this year  that we have
noticed cisgender people
asking for Mx to be their new title when they are only changing their
surname. Their forenames continue to identify gender."
I believe the cisgender people referred to here, if
they are indeed
cisgender, may have made a mistake or may have somehow been misled. Or
they may have used Mx inadvertently because of a design aspect of the
UK Deed Poll Service's online application form. It seems entirely
plausible that they came to the online application form just for the
purpose of changing their surname, entered a new surname, and then
clicked on the wrong title before hitting ‘Enter.’
On the other hand, they may have done this deliberately, thinking that
changing their title to Mx by deed poll would help them avoid revealing
their gender on many other forms. Methinks purposefully changing their
title to Mx is not going to help these men or women achieve the aim of
gender unless they also plan to only use initials for their forenames
because, according to the Service, their forenames "continue to
It's also possible the people referred to here are in fact transgender
or agender, not cisgender. Or perhaps they currently present as
cisgender but are secretly gender-questioning and have adopted Mx as
part of a plan to come out as transgender soon. It seems unsafe to
assume they are cisgender just because they have not changed their
The Service continued:
"But the overwhelming majority of people
who apply to us [and use Mx]
are still changing their first name usually to a gender-neutral first
name..." and "I have just looked (randomly) at one month this year
January) and all but one of the deed polls issued that month for a
change of title to Mx, had a change of first name."
That was eleven out of twelve people changing their
title to Mx who
also changed their first name to something that was definitely either
gender-neutral or of the opposite gender. (The gender types of the
names were confirmed in private correspondence with the Service.)
So it seems most, and possibly all, of the UK Deed Poll Service's Mx
users have a non-binary gender identity. The few apparent cisgender
individuals who used Mx may well have preferred to use 'No title' but
this choice was not available on the Service's application page; in
addition to Mr and Mrs etc, the form offered Mx and Other. 'Other' does
not really imply 'No title,' it could be used appropriately by someone
from a non English-speaking background whose honorific title is not
listed, or an applicant might think 'Other' is for use by non-binary
and intersex individuals. In the absence of 'No title' in the list, a
cisgender person trying to avoid stating their gender may find Mx is
the only choice left. I'm hoping the Service will add 'No title' or
something similar to this list to avoid inadvertent or mistaken use of
Note that it is not normally necessary to use a deed poll or any other
legal document or process for an adult to change their title. It’s
usually very easy. After thinking it through very carefully and making
the decision to use a different title, they just start using it, and
tell everyone they know
and all the businesses and government agencies they deal with.
Generally, they are not committing any offence by changing from one
title to another as long as they are not doing so for fraudulent
purposes. If they change their title due to some material change of
circumstances, such as getting married, getting divorced, or
transitioning from male to female or vice versa, then failing to advise
insurance companies, for example, could be an offence. (I'm no lawyer,
and laws vary from country to country and place to place, so you ought
to check with your favourite lawyer or attorney.)
Transgender people are using Mx to be open and honest. They are using
it to be proud, showing they are sure of their gender and certainly
not ashamed of it. A cisgender person deliberately using Mx to avoid
revealing their gender has a very different intention; I suggest at the
very least that's a strange way of using Mx, and it probably will not
even work for that purpose.
The genderless agenda
It sometimes seems there is a move to make society at large quite
genderless. While most agender individuals are very happy that most
other people on the planet have some sort of gendered self-identity,
there seems to be a desire among a few for the whole world to become
Encouraging cisgender people to use Mx to avoid acknowledging their
gender, thus undermining the whole concept of gender, would suit such
an outlook. If the use of Mx by cisgender people ever did become
widespread the only logical result in the long run is that Mx would
become quite meaningless. Mx would be a Clayton's title. (Does that
reference work outside of Australia? That is, a title you have when
you're not having a title, like a drink you have …) Mx would become
useless if anyone and everyone was using it, ultimately rendering it a
non-title and perhaps leading to the extinction of all common titles,
which may suit those people who would like to see the world become
By definition, a title must distinguish between different types of
people, otherwise it has no purpose. It simply can't work as a title if
everyone uses it. Encouraging cisgender people to use Mx is either
misguided or simply not well thought through. And it’s potentially done
at great cost to the transgender community because Mx could be lost as
a viable title.
I hope agender people will join me in promoting a more sensible and
responsible use of Mx, because we (transgender and agender people) have
so much in common and so much to gain. Even those individuals who do
not wish to use Mx themselves stand to benefit.
How to avoid stating your gender without
Apart from the title place-holder 'No title,' there is currently no
generally-accepted term for 'I don't want to reveal my gender.' Nor, I
think, will there ever be one. But finding ways to avoid gender-based
discrimination is a laudable aim.
I suggest the only way any person can avoid revealing their gender in
forms is to not tick any box for male or female, not provide any title,
not indicate their preferred pronouns, not write anything with other
gender clues, and not display their first and middle names if they show
(instead, they could use initials). Easy! Not.
Just using some sort of non-gendered title, or even a non-title such as
'No title,' will not suffice. (But there may be some point in form
makers including ‘No title' because it
accommodates the need felt by many to try to protect their identity in
this way, and will also minimise mistaken use of Mx.)
Using a non-gendered title in person will obviously not do the trick,
either. You are sprung as your gender even before you open your mouth
to speak, as the fictitious Mr Bloggsnovich could attest.
I hope form makers will find and implement some way of making it easier
for anyone, transgender or otherwise, to opt out of stating their
gender, starting perhaps with something like 'No title' but including
In any case, the ultimate aim in this circumstance should not be to
somehow deny one's gender, but to eliminate gender-based
discrimination, which has next to nothing to do with titles and will
persist even if a cisgender person uses Mx or a transgender person uses
'No title' or 'Other.'
How to address someone when you don't know
their gender, without using
Misgendering is offensive. Certainly, you should only ever use Mx to
address a person if you are quite sure they already use it to identify
themself. The fact that the person in question has used Mx to refer to
others with respect is no guarantee they would also like to be
addressed using Mx, regardless of whether they are cisgender or an
out-and-proud transgender person. You don’t write “Dear Miss
Schwarzenegger” unless you know for certain the person you’re writing
to is a woman, because they might not be! If you mistakenly address any
person with Mx who does not use it for themself, rather than feeling
respected that person is likely to be offended.
How to address someone when you don't know their gender has long been a
conundrum, but many workaround solutions continue to suffice. I suggest
"Hello" when addressing someone in person, and perhaps adding their
name. And "Hello Margaret Jones" or "Dear Margaret" when it's in a
letter, or using something similar.
If there was an actual title for this, letter writers would be missing
out on some creative opportunities, for example "Dear local
constituent," or "Greetings to our new neighbours," which are more to
the point, more engaging and carry more information than "Dear
Madam/Sir" ever could.
In any case, after using Mx as an initial non-title title, the letter
writer would still need to decide whether to use male or female
pronouns, so the problem would continue. Somehow, we have all survived
without using Mx or something else as a non-title and the sky has not
fallen in. Using Mx for this purpose would lead to more problems, not
Why supporters should not use Mx
For a cisgender person to use Mx as a sign of support doesn't make a
lot of sense and would not be helpful. Supporter use could be
confusing to the general public and counterproductive to the interests
of promoting transgender or non-binary recognition and legitimacy. It
may also carry dangers for the supporter.
Methinks Mx will continue to be seen by the general public as denoting
some sort of non-binary transgender status. I can imagine it might even
for alerting friends and family in advance that one is about to reveal
one is transgender.
A supporter using Mx will have the same problems as
someone posting nude selfies on the internet: it may reach unintended
places and be impossible to completely undo.
Transgender and transsexual people sometimes encounter problems at
customs and other checkpoints, especially if official documents, old
records and the person's appearance do not match. A cisgender person
traveling abroad who has used Mx in the past may find it comes back to
haunt them and makes for quite a bad trip.
What allies can do
Transgender and agender people have many friends and allies,
with more and more as time goes by.
Allies can help in a great many ways, both big and small. They can help
us by challenging ignorant off-colour comments behind our backs. Even
better than this, they can act proactively by mentioning us in a good
light before a work colleague makes an idiot of themself. And,
especially, they can become educated about our lives and our issues,
and help spread that learning.
To promote appropriate use of Mx see the extensive
list of ideas and suggestions in Appendix Three: Resources for
allies (new window).
It’s not worth engaging in heated debates with bigots or trolls; best
just to move on and leave them to it. Work on educating those who are
willing to at least listen.
Allies can help us become more well-known in person as ‘real people’
instead of as interesting news items on a slow news day. If our
individuality and diversity can be brought out we may defeat the
stereotyped images which have hurt us, like any other minority or
More consequences of random use
A physical commodity or a skill may be valuable because of its
A title is not quite like that because it can be replicated at no cost.
But its value or utility still depends on it having some sort of
limited availability or applicability. As a meaningful title Mx will
disappear if all
adults can use it, instead of only certain types of adults, such as
If, through widespread random use by cisgender people, Mx came to mean
'I don't want to reveal my gender,' how would that affect the use of it
by transgender and agender people? I suppose the non-binary user of Mx
would then be seen to be trying to hide their gender—exactly the
opposite of how we currently use it. Its widespread adoption by
cisgender people would not only make Mx next to meaningless as a title,
but also by giving it the non-title implication of concealment, it
would reverse the meaning we understand it to have today.
So what began, in practical terms, as something powerful that could
lead to the betterment of non-binary transgender people (both as
individuals and as a group), could instead, by misuse, lead very much
to our detriment. In effect we would not only lose our own
gender-affirming title, we might be seen as devious people trying to
hide our genders, or what is possibly even worse, strange people trying
to avoid being 'real' men or 'real' women.
Mx in dictionaries
Dictionaries, by their very nature, simply report or describe how words
are currently used, and some dictionaries also record how usage has
changed over time. The main point about any new word is how it is being
used in the real world, not how anyone thinks it should be used.
To date, Mx as a title has been used almost exclusively by, and to
to, various transgender or agender individuals, some of whom were also
intersex. I’m not aware of a single confirmed case of a
cisgender person using Mx, whether consistently or intermittently,
except for one who mentions occasionally using it in a Usenet post
decades ago. And that one Usenet user is really only of historical
However, the definition given in the Oxford English Dictionary online
version when Mx was added earlier this year is not simply descriptive
of how Mx is really being used, it also has a prescriptive element.
Despite this, the four
recent examples they give of the use of Mx by organisations or
individuals are all unambiguously transgender uses, so they all clearly
contradict the prescriptive element of the OED's own definition. That
part of their definition does
not reflect current or recent practice, nor does it reflect earlier
There are significant dangers in dictionaries publishing
prescriptive definitions that are not based on how Mx is really being
may mislead individuals and organisations into using Mx in ways that
are not based on example, not recognised by the general community, not
well thought-out, and which may have unintended and regrettable
Dictionary makers should not develop or change a definition based on
simple errors in the way a word is used. The occasional cisgender
person who inadvertently chooses Mx from a pull-down menu or a list of
radio buttons online has hardly made a correct or informed choice,
especially if there are design flaws in the form which dramatically
increase the likelihood of getting confused or making the wrong choice
for other reasons. Or perhaps someone's eyesight was poor or the room
light was dim when tackling a hardcopy form with a pen that hardly
worked. Mistakes like these can hardly be counted as legitimate uses of
Mx. Unfortunately, because Mx as a title appears on many forms
and is seen by a great many people to whom it is fairly new or
completely unknown, the rate of false positive-type errors will be much
higher than for other new words.
Once a major dictionary, such as the prestigious OED, defines a new
term other dictionaries are likely to be heavily influenced by it
(whether directly or indirectly). This can result in confirmation bias
in favour of a particular way of defining or describing a new word,
especially when one is suggested by an interest group whose preferred
definition is in line with the false-positive errors. Thus, a second
dictionary will replicate a faulty definition. With each new
replication by another dictionary the out-of-touch-with-the-real-world
definition will become more entrenched, which is a disservice to the
language and society at large.
I hope dictionary makers will avoid relying on information from
interest groups and will instead do their own research, especially with
something as important as a new title. I hope all dictionaries in
future will simply report the use of Mx as it is at the time, and
perhaps describe how it may have changed.
I'm not privy to the OED's sources and to date they have not replied
to my email eight weeks ago, on September 21, 2015, apart from an
automated reply acknowledging receipt.
For more detail on the OED's Mx entry see another article: Androgyne using the new Mx title since 2002, now in
2015, new window).
Is Mx gender-neutral?
'Gender-neutral' implies a very
binary view of gender where all gender characteristics belong to only
one of two opposing
groups: masculine or feminine, as if one were a positive pole and one a
negative pole (I will not speculate on which would be which). Such a
view, once prevalent in the Western world, is fading away as it becomes
more obvious that these are
not mutually exclusive or opposed and many
individuals have characteristics from both groups; such people can not
be said to be exclusively male or exclusively female.
I suggest Mx should never be described as
because this is so easily mistaken to mean it doesn't specify gender,
or that by implication it can be used to avoid stating one's gender. Including
the word 'agender' in the description is problematic for the same
reason. Some cisgender
people automatically revert or default to binary ways of thinking about
gender and will easily conflate 'neutral' or 'agender' with
'unspecified' and 'indeterminate,' which would be unfortunate as
these, in practical
terms, are the opposite of its meaning. We use Mx to openly specify and
gender as we have self-determined it.
Some non-binary transgender or agender
individuals who use Mx do call themselves gender-neutral.
gender-neutral may seem perfectly logical in this circumstance, but the
major problem remains that Mx clearly does not mean unspecified or
Mx means gender-neutral but not only
gender-neutral, whereas it always means some form of non-binary
So while Mx is a good title for
gender-neutral individuals to use,
calling it a gender-neutral title is like calling it an androgyne
title—accurate but potentially misleading.
A better description of Mx would be something like 'Mx or Mix is a
non-binary transgender title,' with no reference to gender neutrality.
'Non-binary' needs to be in the description because the term
'transgender' nowadays usually includes transsexual, and transsexual
people are very unlikely to think Mx is appropriate for them.
Organisations accepting Mx
In my personal experience of it in Australia, Mx has been used for up
thirteen years beginning with formal letters from my medical specialist
to my doctor, and from a sheet music publisher directly to myself. It’s
on statements from the main telephone and electricity companies,
BankCard, AMEX, Medicare, the Australian Tax Office and others.
In recent years in the UK more and more organisations have been
accepting Mx. They've been including it in their online or hardcopy
and using it in other ways. They include the Post Office in 2009, the
of Commons, various government agencies, several local authorities, the
National Health Service, many banks, utilities and universities
including Oxford and Cambridge, and a growing number of private firms.
Driving licences, credit cards, student cards and other forms of ID can
and do carry Mx.
In October 2011 the innovative UK Deed Poll Service included Mx in
systems, and even added an explanatory pop-up window. This is from their
site on November 15, 2015:
"...we introduced the title of Mx (pronounced
Mix) as an option for
people who do not identify themselves as either male or female and,
therefore, feel a gender specific title such as Mr or Miss is
inappropriate and unsuitable for them...
"If you are changing your title to Mx, no doubt you
are also changing
your forenames to ones that also do not identify your gender." (Used
You can guess I like most of the first sentence, including the
The final one is a little
curious; I imagine it was included to help clarify their belief in 2011
that Mx refers only to transgender or genderless people, or, at least,
not to cisgender people. That's a belief I share though I don't think
anyone necessarily has to change their name in order to use Mx.
In private correspondence the Deed Poll Service has concurred that a
first name change is not necessary and they will be amending the
wording of their site.
Form makers and designers
If a cisgender person filling out an online form wanted to avoid
gender-based discrimination they might not want to state their gender.
'No title' would be best but if that is not available and Mx is listed
among available titles, the applicant may in confusion or out of
desperation choose that.
To avoid customers feeling pressured into making mistakes, these three:
Mx, No title, and Other, should always
appear together along with the
As one of the most important uses for recording a person’s common title
is to determine which pronouns to use, perhaps forms could have a new
section giving a choice of pronouns. The ability to specify pronouns
would prevent a lot of misgendering which currently happens, especially
in regard to both non-binary and non English-speaking customers.
Providing a choice of pronouns would be especially useful in the case
of individuals choosing Mx. With the traditional titles it is known
what pronouns should be used. However, people choosing Mx may have
preferred pronouns drawn from the entire list of possibilities. Some
transgender or agender Mx-choosers will want he, some will want
and quite a few will want the singular they. But nothing can be
assumed. And then there is the long list of new pronouns, so perhaps a
field or box to type them in would be appropriate.
If you are designing an online or hardcopy form please carefully
consider how to avoid confusing your customers while still collecting
the information you need. See Appendix Four: Issues for form makers
(new window) for
some useful information on this, and see my blog for ongoing
The inclusion of Mx in the Oxford English Dictionary online version in
May 2015 was a seminal moment. Being listed in the dictionary may have
been newsworthy, but being included as a new honorific title alongside
Mr & Mrs was very special indeed. Honorific titles as a group hold
a unique and important place in language, which behoves dictionary
writers to take extra care to be accurate when describing their use in
Mistaken usage, cisgender individuals perhaps impulsively experimenting
with Mx, and online Usenet groups tossing the idea around in a few
posts decades ago, hardly make a good basis for a dictionary definition.
Since the dawn of time gender has had a role as a major part of human
creativity—we have always had genders and we will always have them.
Everyone has their own impressions of what genders are and what
characteristics they have, and this is partly culturally based.
Your sense of your own gender is innate, but how you see yourself in
terms of gender is only one aspect of your gender: there is also the
view of the observer, or other people around you. Their views of you
affect how they relate to you, and for a transgender person this can
be greatly enhanced by
using an appropriate title.
Mx as a useable title evolved over several decades, initially through
being discussed in online groups and later being used by transgender
individuals in every day life. Over the last thirteen or so years, and
particularly since 2009, its adoption among transgender and agender
people has increased exponentially. Clearly, it is filling a strong
need among such people.
The claim that Mx is not a transgender title is patently false. Mx has
been a transgender title since at least 2002, consistently used by us
to mean non-binary transgender and agender.
Over the last year or so the natural dissemination of Mx seems to have
encountered teething problems and become a little messy and confusing.
This is not surprising, given that the sudden increase in the use of Mx
due in part to it being actively promoted along ideological lines by
agender advocates, rather than growing from simply spreading
organically among people who have a real and deep need for it.
Mx is apparently still used almost exclusively by transgender and
agender people, including some intersex persons who are also
transgender or agender. It is probably not used by transsexual
individuals. Though a small number of cisgender people may have used
it, this could have been due to impulsive experimentation, wanting to
experience the novelty of a new title, out of a misunderstanding, or
out of confusion when filling out application forms.
The push for everyone to use Mx may be doomed to failure in the long
run, but not before many cisgender people suffer and the cause of
transgender acceptance is delayed.
A title provides a way of addressing any person with respect. The
correct title helps others to interact with them in appropriate ways,
including using the right pronouns.
The common honorific titles describe a person only in very general
ways, but always including gender. Mx signals that the person in
question is an out-and-proud transgender or agender individual.
Intuitively we know what a title indicates even if it does not provide
much detail, and we know it's important. Or, at least, that is how
it is with most people, and 'most people' determine a lot of things.
Theory won't help in trying to instruct the masses in the use Mx, the
only assistance will come from the example of practical applications
which have been successful.
There is no point debating the fine details of what Mx could or should
denote because no title can describe such detail. Just as Mr and Ms do
not tell you much about how a person manifests in the world or
identifies as male or female, so Mx does not say much about how a
non-binary person is non-binary. Mx simply means non-binary
transgender or agender, which includes a multitude of non-binary
gender identities. Like all titles, it's still very vague on details.
This is necessarily so for any title if it is to have general
acceptance and be used by large numbers of people.
It can be very important for a transgender or agender person to have a
descriptive and meaningful title to use in every day life, rather than
one which is for hiding a person's gender. It would be psychologically
damaging to be constantly using a title which has negative
connotations. They need a positive title which is easy and practical to
use, one which helps them be 'out' instead of having to constantly hope
they can somehow dodge using Mr or Ms every time the need for a title
It's too simplistic to say non-binary transgender and
can't both use Mx just because those identities seem to be mutually
exclusive in theory. That would be to artificially create an unhelpful
distinction or conflict between people who have much more in common
than they have apart. It would be splitting hairs.
Mx cannot mean both ‘I’m revealing my gender’ and ‘I’m hiding my
gender.’ But it can certainly mean both ‘I’m a mixture of genders’ and
‘My gender is one of a great mixture of genders.’ This is
logical and especially practical
when you consider that many individuals from both
groups, transgender and agender, are using the singular they as
The use of the singular they is taking off among these
and it’s a perfect match for Mx.
Titles, like other labels or categories, need to be both inclusive of
some things and exclusive of others in order to be useful. However,
some commentators seem to have an agender agenda,
wherein every adult
in the English speaking world would use Mx.
If Mx were to include all adults, whether cisgender, transgender,
transsexual or agender, it would become meaningless.
If Mx became essentially meaningless by becoming the default title for
all people, and its use in that fashion became widespread, it might
to the demise of the entire notion of an honorific title. Why would
anyone need a title if all titles were the same? All titles would be
useless. The unique value of Mx to the transgender
and agender communities would be lost, and common titles as we know
them might die out.
The ideological push for a genderless society with no gender titles is
at odds with the real world needs of people in their everyday lives.
Such a genderless society in the future would be very dull in all sorts
of ways and would be much the poorer intellectually and creatively.
Indeed, such a development might have many unexpected and adverse
Mx should be a useful addition to society and not, instead, become a
detraction by causing the reduced efficacy of all common titles.
Such an extreme turn of events may seem fanciful and, of course, it is
hardly likely. But pressure would be exerted on the mere concept of
gendered titles if Mx was used widely in an inappropriate manner. That
would be a great pity as Mx has the potential to contribute to society
by becoming a distinct and useful title, and in other ways concerned
with improving the well-being of a marginalised group and their
families and associates.
For many years Mx has been 'road tested' by a number of transgender
people, including some intersex and some agender individuals, beginning
in 2002 or possibly earlier. It has performed brilliantly, easily
facilitating correspondence and personal interaction between these
individuals and the wider cisgender community.
The 'road testers,' as I have dubbed them, were not in any way
organised and did not even know each other, much less have any plan to
test out Mx. They were transgender individuals who simply began using
Mx out of their own need for an appropriate title. They report their
use of Mx has helped them greatly in maintaining their happiness and
sense of well-being. There have been no reported problems with using Mx
among these people, apart from not always finding it available in
online application forms.
Their experience shows the wider community finds Mx a good title to use
for transgender people. It’s easy to understand, easy to say (as Mix),
and easy to spell and remember. The plural of Mx falls easily as Mixes.
The fact that Mx, as Mix, is based on an existing word may explain why
it has been so readily adopted and why it continues to be so successful.
Missteps or teething problems with the uptake of Mx seem to have only
begun appearing this year, coinciding with Mx finding its way into
dictionaries where inaccurate and misleading definitions have been
given which incorrectly suggest that Mx has currency as a term for
cisgender individuals to use when they want to avoid stating their
gender in forms. It is more likely that the few cisgender people who
have used it in this way, that is, in forms, did so in error or because
of a lack of more suitable alternatives, such as 'No title.' It is
notable that all four examples given in the OED's online definition are
clearly transgender uses (unchanged as at November 15, 2015).
Just as the growth in the use of Mx among transgender and agender
individuals has been accelerating in recent years, so has its
acceptance by a diverse range of organisations been increasing,
including many businesses and various levels of government. Mx is now
found on a wide range of application forms and on personal identity
cards such as credit cards, student cards and railway access cards.
Form makers will play a critical role in the continuing success of Mx.
By implementing well thought-out title lists they can minimise the
incidence of incorrect use, thus reducing confusion about the meaning
of Mx, a vital factor in its further acceptance and continuing utility.
This can be enhanced with brief explanations on application forms, and
the addition of a new feature allowing customers to specify their
Mx is best described as a non-binary transgender title. It is prudent
to avoid calling it gender-neutral, or even agender, simply because
these terms are likely to be misunderstood as meaning unspecified,
which is clearly not what Mx means. The term 'non-binary' needs
to be included to make it clear that Mx does not usually, if ever,
refer to transsexuals.
Using Mx to avoid revealing gender in forms or in
person, and using Mx
as a greeting in mail addressed to individuals whose gender is not
known, will not succeed in concealing gender and will not solve the
problems in correspondence. Mx is not a panacea for every problem
related to titles or gender.
Mx, as Mix, may prove to be the perfect title for many types of
transgender and agender people, as by the implication of mixture it can
immediately conjure up the notion of a multitude of 'other' gender
I hope with the wide distribution of the information and explanations
in this document that more people who are naturally suited to using Mix
will learn of it and will understand how Mx could work for them.
Any transgender or agender person, or any other person questioning
own gender, should feel encouraged to take up Mx—but I hope they only
do so after due consideration. It has certainly and greatly benefited
myself and many others.
If agender people using Mx alongside transgender people using it to
mean 'mixture' seems a bit of a stretch to some, encouraging cisgender
individuals to use Mx because it could mean 'I don't want to state my
gender' is a much bigger stretch. The latter is unlikely to succeed in
the long run and carries many problems with it, while the former has
already been shown to work perfectly.
A title which refers to some sort of mixed gender identity is unlikely
to find favour among transsexual people. On the other hand, some
supposedly cisgender individuals might use Mx preemptively, knowing
they will come out at some point in the near future as transgender or
Supporter use is counterproductive, it may have significant drawbacks
both for the supporter and for the cause of increasing transgender and
agender acceptance in the wider community.
There are many things allies can do to promote good use of Mx, and to
help us generally, particularly by getting to know us as individuals
and by using their own contacts. See Appendix Five: Resources for
allies (new window).
You may have thought that myself and others have spent the last
thirteen years or so experimenting with Mx, troubleshooting its
implementation, and having the occasional setback among the advances,
but that is not at all so. The truth is that Mx, pronounced as Mix and
often spelt in full, has always worked perfectly, right from the
There has been no need for fine-tuning, no law suits, no campaign
strategy. The word was 'out there,' I heard it, adopted it, and have
simply continued to use it, with great success. Other Mx users have
told me remarkably similar stories.
Regardless of any theories, using Mx as a transgender person
REALLY WORKS. It works for me as part of the foundation of
my self-identity, it works for me as a way of being proud, confident,
open and honest; and, importantly, it works for the people around me by
facilitating their interactions with me.
Commentators may argue over who ought to use Mx but in the end those
who really need it will use it and those who don't, won't. Those who
choose to use Mx will presumably have at least some degree of
gender questioning. Using Mx may be very good for those individuals,
but only if it feels right to them.
I do hope Mx is not forced on anyone by well-meaning admirers. The
local transgender or intersex shopkeeper, doctor, baker, politician or
dentist, even if they are 'out and proud,' might not subscribe to this
view of titles, or may not want to use Mx for themself even if they use
it for others. It's a very personal thing.
If the use of Mx by transgender people continues to grow and Mx becomes
more and more useful in their interactions with the general
community such use will, in a delightfully subversive way, help to
promote the greater acceptance of the mere notion of non-binary gender
identities. This will have major benefits to thousands of
transgender individuals and their families around the world now, and
many more well into the future.
If this simple solution is adopted widely, if the
general public finds
it easy to say, easy to write and easy to remember, if society at large
embraces Mx and appreciates its simplicity and elegance, it will be the
Debussy of transgender recognition. For the next 100 years the 'music'
of our daily lives will be appreciated and celebrated.
I call on transgender advocates everywhere, and our cisgender allies,
to help spread the word about Mx, in particular its many advantages and
benefits for a wide range of transgender and agender people. The many
individuals who have used Mx over the last decade or so found it
facilitated great improvements in their lives. The continuing uptake of
Mx will translate into a much improved understanding and acceptance of
us in the wider community.
The inclusion of Mx in major dictionaries, and its increasing use in
wider community, herald a new and better understanding of transgender
and agender people in society at large. Just two or three letters could
rapidly and fundamentally change the way all non-binary transgender
seen, now and forever.
© Mx Margaret D. Jones (Margaret Dylan Jones, androgyne), November 15,
2015. Updated with minor amendments on December 12, 2015.
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See my earlier blog post on this subject: Androgyne using the new Mx title
since 2002, now in OED,
which has more links in addition to those here and more detail about
the OED entry.
Watch my YouTube video (October 2015) about Mx being added to the
Oxford English Dictionary New
Mx title now in OED.
Read the transcript of my 2004 appearance on the George Negus Tonight
ABC television programme.
Watch me play my 1977 Androgyne
Prophecy music on a grand piano,
My blog: mixmargaret.com/blog/category/trans-androgyne
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Guide for Media in understanding non_binary.pdf, from
Organisation Intersex International Australia Limited (OII)
http://mixmargaret.com/androgyne-definition.html (definitions of
androgyne and intersex)
For more about how to refer to androgynes and avoid misspellings and
other common mistakes, see Appendix
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